Sun, Jun 03 2012, 06:59 PM EDT
I don't do, and don't know anyone who does, most of these. I don't know how common they actually are, but I imagine there really ARE a lot of dicks out there who hate on people for not just giving up and being whatever they appear to be on the outside. But I've NEVER heard "You're such a tranny..."
There IS one of them that I've done: ask others who know someone what pronouns they use. Because I'm embarrassed to ask directly.
I habitually give a name other than my real name. I like my real name, but no one can remember it. They drop the last letter, mangle it (my name is not Jason! C'mon, it starts with a "J," is five letters, and that's it!) or forget it entirely. So I give the first name of one of my furry characters, and people always remember it.
Now, using the wrong pronouns? I ask others, noted above. Where I live, if you see a female who looks like a tomboyish sort, there's a pretty equal chance (it seems) of them being trans, an intentionally butch lesbian, or simply an unassuming cisgendered girl who just happens to look boyish.
I know, understand and accept that there are WAY more people who don't stick to all aspects of their birth sex than people used to think (and still think). Some of 'em disagree with a few facets, some many, and some all of them; it's a great big sliding scale. Multiple sliding scales, one or more per facet. I just don't want to be considered a problem-waiting-to-happen just because I'm cis. (though technically I'm not white, Christian, hetero, I'm white, Christian, homo...)